In which I suffer the consequences of socializing with mediocre people.

Sometimes I hang out with petty, small-minded people on accident, b/c of mutual friends, or social gatherings, and it never ever ends well. I usually go home thinking it was a good-enough evening, but there's often backlash. For example, last week I went to a dinner at a friend's house (she's really more A's friend, but we're making an effort) ... and a work friend of theirs and her brother were there. No big deal, they seemed nice enough, for shallow hipster types. I was unimpressed. I remain unimpressed with the girl who hosted the dinner, too, but she and A are close friends, and her husband is nice. On the way back to my place, A told me that the sister has been hitting on him a lot lately, but he's not interested b/c she's a bit ... unintelligent. And this was unspoken, but she's not me. So, yeah. Dumb, shallow, boring girl, with mildly interesting tattoos, and I dismissed her completely. Her brother was even more shallow, less intelligent, and actually had a finger mustache tattoo ... which I liked b/c mustache, but he was dumb. No big deal, b/c they're unimportant people whom I will likely never see again. But last night, when A and I were setting up our game night at his place, he hits me with an off-hand (he doesn't do fake-casual well, btw) comment that the sister chick informed him that I had been hitting on her brother all that evening. Understandably, I was flummoxed ... Not only had I not hit on him, I hadn't even flirted with him, other than the necessary amount of flirting that comes with breathing. And A obviously believed her enough to report it back to me, and supported her statement by saying that I had, in fact, flirted with the kid, but it hadn't bothered him. Really? As time passes, I find myself getting angrier and angrier about the stupidity of that situation. I was being nice, and I get accused of hitting on a 21 yr old kid, just so this annoying bitch can try to get in A's pants by making me look bad? THIS. This is why I don't hang out with those kind of people. I don't play games, and I don't need drama in my life. If I do, I'll create my own. At this point, I am fairly furious with everyone involved, almost including A, though I'm trying to hold back my anger with him till I find out why he felt he needed to tell me about what she said. I don't think he even knows what his motive was ... but it obviously bothered him. As wonderful as he is, his friends so far leave a lot to be desired. If this is going to be part and parcel of dating him, I'm glad we're not officially dating, b/c I cannot allow that toxicity in my life. So, that happened. Whatever that was.

Sex, feminism, and the myth of purity: a demi-rant, with link.

I've been ruminating quite a lot over the past year or so on the subject of sexuality. I've always thought about it, but since the government has talked about regulating my vagina, it's been on my mind more and more. And I'm discovering that I am really quite a feminist, which kinda surprised me. 10 years ago I would not have described myself as a feminist, but that's probably b/c I didn't really know what it meant. I don't hate men. On the contrary, I absolutely love men. They are delightful creatures, and they're almost like people in their own right. I kid, I kid. Men really are great, most of the time. I've gotten really picky about which ones I allow into my life, but I still accidentally let a douchecanoe get the better of me on occasion. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I've been falsely conditioned, like all the other women in our culture, to view myself and my worth in terms of other people. One of the main arguments that my religion has against "pre-marital sex" is that it is equivalent to adultery against my future husband. Um, what?!?! I also noticed the shame poured onto women who have obviously lost their virginity and can't deny it (that is, got knocked up), disproportionately shamier than that which was applied to the male in question ... we do agree that immaculate conception was a one-time deal, right? The thoughts swirling in my head aren't cohesively coalescing into anything coherent, so I'm just going to leave this here and go eat some fucking chocolate.

http://jezebel.com/female-purity-is-bullshit-493278191

à moi!

if anyone who smokes is entitled to a smoke break (to feed their addiction), why then am i not entitled to an internet break (to feed my addiction)?

i submit that if all of us who are in essence addicted to this wonderment of technology were to rebel against the injustice of the workforce, we the many could make a change.

vive la révolution!

Jul 26, 2007